Why I Was So Insecure

I’ll never forget the day I learned why I was so insecure. 

It wasn’t because of my awkwardly small feet.

Or because I sweat too much in front of large crowds (seriously, it’s too much). 

It wasn’t even because of my deep, slightly dark, baggage filled past. 
It was simply the fact that I didn’t love who I was.  I deeply wanted to change the very way I was born.

One of the biggest things I hated? How emotional I was. 

I truly resented that quality about myself, and it got in the way of every relationship I’d ever had. 

If I could just stop crying, stop taking things so personally, stop feeling so {insert every emotion possible} in {every situation possible}. 

And then one day, as I poured my heart out to my coach about the most recent story of emotional embarrassment, he looked at me and said very matter of factly and almost in passing, “So, you’re highly emotional.”

I looked down at the floor, cried, and said, “Yes, I hate it.  I can’t help it.” 

Then he looked at me confused and said, “Well, stop hating it, because it’s who you are - and that ain’t changing, girl."

“Plus, it's what makes you highly passionate, highly loving, highly invested. There really should be more people like you in the world. 
We’ve simply got to make sure you’re using that super power for good, not bad.
And that’s easy - we can fix that." {insert books-on-books of communication tools and emotional management tips}
"But none of that will work until you love and embrace the fact that… Yes, you are a highly emotional being. Hello, thank you, moving on."  

The day I accepted that, was the day I started to feel genuinely happy.

I felt at peace, and finally appreciative of all the other great things I had to offer. 

And that happiness and confidence began to ripple effect into every aspect of my life. 

Learning to love all the parts of us (the good, the bad, and even the highly emotional) makes life so much easier, so much kinder, so much more enjoyable.  

So my question for you is what part of yourself - that you secretly want to change - can you love and embrace today?

xx,
Kelsey